My boyfriend and I had been a twosome for seven months. I thought it was great, but he said he felt restricted and last month he told me he wanted the freedom to date other girls. I had no choice but to agree. Right now, he’s dating me twice a month and another girl the same amount. I don’t like this arrangement, but I do enjoy going out with him and when we’re together we have good times.
My best friend thinks I’m crazy and that I should force him to choose between me and the other girl. I’m afraid if I do, he’ll choose the other girl. Do you find anything wrong with my sharing my guy with another girl? She’s obviously isn’t too upset about his seeing me.
South Bend, Ind.
Nameless: So long as you enjoy going out with “your guy,” continue to do so. But don’t sit at home and pout on those nights when he’s out with the other girl. Do things with your friends or family, or go out with another guy yourself.
Dr. Wallace: I was pleased to read the letter from Mark who wanted you to know that all teens are not into booze, drugs, or violent activities. I, too, am one of the millions of teens out there who is part of the silent majority. I am a non-smoking, non-drinking, non-drug-taking adolescent. I care too much about myself and my health to be “cool” and get “blitzed.”
It’s like my psychology teacher says: “You only get one body, and you can’t trade it in if you abuse it.”
Every chance I get, I thank The Good Lord for not permitting me to stray off course. I know I’ll be a better human being because of my lifestyle.
St. Paul, Minn.
Bob: From my travels around the United States and Canada, lecturing in high schools and talking with teens, I’m convinced that today’s teens are intelligent, energetic, fun-loving and highly motivated human beings. Some of them are troubled and hurting, but most of them are just like you.
Dr. Wallace: On my second date with Jerry we went to a party and I had to call my parents to pick me up because he’d been drinking and I didn’t want to ride with him.
Yesterday he called and asked me out again. He apologized and said he stopped drinking, so that sort of incident would never happen again. I’d like to go out with him again, but my parents won’t allow it. Don’t you think Jerry deserves another chance? After all, he is human and entitled to make a one-time mistake.
Rock Island, Ill.
Nameless: Because of the possible serious consequence of driving after drinking, Jerry doesn’t deserve another chance. I agree with your parents’ decision.